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Q. We're starting to think that we may have to postpone or alter our wedding because of coronavirus. What options do we have for our ceremony?
A. Lisa Bourne says: All is not lost! Here are some ways a celebrant can help you have a meaningful ceremony despite the situation…
- Virtual ceremonies. I recently led a Zoom wedding ceremony for the wonderful Ann and Mark, which included music, personalised vows, readings, a handfasting and an exchange of rings. The pair have postponed their celebrations, but this ceremony will now be celebrated as their wedding anniversary.
- Smaller ceremonies outdoors. As lockdown eases, small socially distanced outdoor ceremonies are permitted. At the time of writing, groups of up to six people can gather in private or public spaces. Think gardens, parks, beaches – and champagne!
- Elopement. Perhaps you want it to be just the two of you, away from it all, focusing on one another. You could bring a couple of extra people if you wish, and a celebrant will make the elopement extra special.
- Commitment ceremonies. Not a full wedding ceremony, but a marking of your intention to marry in the future. Held on your original date, this is a beautiful way of celebrating all the reasons why you love each other and a reminder of why you decided to marry.
- If your registrar is no longer available. I've had bookings from couples who didn't know about humanist celebrants when they initially booked their registrar. Now, arranging a postponed ceremony but with no registrar available on the new date, celebrants are saving the day! Celebrant-led ceremonies are not yet legally recognised in the UK, so you'll need an appointment with a registrar to complete the legal side, but the important part is that all of your other suppliers are available on your new date and your celebrant can help you create a bespoke and meaningful celebration.
Lisa Bourne,Lisa Bourne Humanist Celebrant
The great outdoors
Q. We'd love to get married outside, but we've found out it's not legally recognised. What are our options?
A. Piers Lane says: There's something really special about being outdoors for your wedding ceremony, isn't there? A summer meadow, the grounds of a stately home, a peaceful woodland, or simply a special family garden – being outside allows you to say your vows in a setting that's romantic, timeless and deeply personal. But you're right, the law in England and Wales states that a legal marriage ceremony cannot take place outside. Problem? Not necessarily! Look at it this way – when a baby is born, the birth is registered before a christening or naming ceremony, in the same way that you can separate the legal registration of your marriage from your ceremony.
Unless you choose to make more of it, the legal occasion can be short with only a couple of witnesses. This means you can save your vows, exchange of rings and any other elements you'd like to include for your al fresco ceremony.
As a professional celebrant, it's been my privilege to create and lead many outdoor weddings – under ancient trees, by lakes, on hilltops, in vineyards and in private gardens. There are so many options to explore.
Pomp and ceremony
Q. We're having a humanist wedding, but with no limitations we don't know where to start. What are your favourite aspects to include?
A. Lisa Bourne says: I'm currently planning a wedding for a couple who were stuck for ideas, so when they mentioned that they love gin, and the fact their nuptials are being held in a botanical garden, we knew a gin ceremony was perfect! As well as being creative, there's meaning in the action; the blending of ingredients symbolises the two lives that are now inseparable.
Here are a few of my other favourite ideas:
- Sandblending ceremony. This is the act of pouring different coloured sand into a container so the grains can't be unpicked and multiple people can be involved. It makes a great keepsake of the day.
- Seed ceremony. The couple pour different seeds into a container so they mix together and can be given out as favours to their guests. It symbolises new beginnings and the growth and care that's needed to nurture a marriage.
- Herbs and spices ceremony. Great for those who love cooking, newlyweds make their own bespoke mix so they can cook for friends and family after the big day.
- Button ceremony. Vintage lovers and crafty types will love this idea. The pair ask guests to bring a button to add to a jar, which can then be used to decorate thank you cards or décor around the home. The buttons represent holding things together.
With this ring...
Q. We love the idea of tying the knot outdoors but since researching it we've found out it's not legally recognised. What are our options?
A. Christine Berrisford says: A humanist ceremony, written and conducted by a celebrant, would be a great option for you. It gives you the opportunity to marry how you want and where you want – including outdoors.
For non-religious couples looking for a flexible, personal celebration, it gives you complete control. Unlike civil ceremonies at a licensed venue, humanist weddings are completely bespoke. There are no script templates and very few restrictions on location. You choose every element: the venue, your story, vows, symbolic or celebratory traditions, music and how to include your loved ones.
This type of wedding is not yet recognised by law in England and Wales, so couples must attend the register office to take care of formalities before or after the big day.
Humanists UK celebrants are highly trained, experienced people who'll guide you through the whole process and create your day your way.