Relationship expert - Sharin Shafer:1. Don't panic!
"I know this sounds like a challenging one to start with, and the initial instinct might be to panic or overthink; however, reacting impulsively might not lead to the best outcome. Instead, start by having a casual conversation with your partner about the ring. Ask your partner to tell you the story of why they chose that particular ring, as perhaps there is a deeper meaning. Maybe the design reminded them of you or your relationship, or it resembles a ring once worn by a beloved relative. Once you understand their reasoning, perhaps you may see the ring differently."2. Be open-minded and give yourself time
"Keep the ring on your finger for a few days and see if it can WOW you. Check out how it looks on your finger in different lights and environments; it may be that the place where your now-fiancé proposed didn't show it off to the best effect. Perhaps it catches the light beautifully outdoors or looks incredible with the colours you most often wear. Try to be open-minded about the situation, but if you're still struggling to see past it, then it is time to have the discussion with your partner."3. Choose a wedding ring you love
"All hope is not lost if you're not totally in love with your engagement ring. Take this as an opportunity to have a conversation with your partner about the next ring—your wedding ring, and make your preferences clear. Both wedding and eternity bands can be worn around the engagement ring to frame them and offset the appearance of the engagement ring to the best effect. This may have a big impact on how you feel about your engagement ring!"About Sharin Shafer
Sharin was married in her early 20s and was one half of Houston’s power couples, who were a firm fixture on the Texas social scene. By her mid-40s and with a hugely successful career, she had divorced and was resolutely focused on her daughters and her career as a sought-after business consultant. However, as she paired up friends and watched them marry, she herself soon fell in love again- with Stephen, a dashing lawyer who split his time between Europe, the UK and the Middle East. Marrying him last summer and embracing her inner romantic, she turned her attention to establishing Bond, The Agency
so that she could help others find love, whatever their age and situation in life! About Georgia Sturmer
Georgina Sturmer is a Counsellor and a registered member of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy, working online with clients across the UK. Georgina specialises in supporting women through the challenges that they may face during different parts of their lives, including anxiety, depression, relationship difficulties, trauma and loss. You can find out more about her at