3 months for your father-in-law to like you!

two men in a vineyard drinking wine and laughing

A new survey, conducted by greetings card marketplace, thortful.com, has revealed the time it takes father-in-laws to approve of their son/daughter's partner, revealing that the average amount of time is three months. The study quizzed 1,000 father-in-laws across the UK on how long it takes for them to approve of their son-in-law, as well as the attributes that are most important to them.

man and woman walking arm and arm outside

It was found that a quarter of father-in-laws (25%) said they actually approved of their son/daughter partner from the first moment they met them, with just less than one in 10 (9%) taking 7 months or longer to approve.

The survey also went on to reveal that almost two-fifths (37%) said that they are happy with who their son/daughter is in a relationship with. More than one in 10 (11%) went on to say that they don't believe their son/daughter needs their dad's approval on their partners, with it completely being their choice.

On the other hand, almost one in five (19%) said they would tell their child if they didn't like their partner, and 16% said they have actually told their child in the past if they haven't approved of who they are with.

The top ways to win over your father-in-law:

  • Show respect to my family (24%)
  • To be family orientated (24%)
  • Take the time to build a relationship with me (18%)
  • Be there during tough times (17%)

two men laughing when looking at a phone

  • Show desire to learn more about my child (15%)
  • Looking at some of the other important factors, 8% said that their potential son-in-law should laugh at their jokes, spend lots of money on their child (8%) and go to the pub with them (7%).
When asked when their childs partner/spouse should avoid doing in order to the get their seal of approval, the top answers from the dads surveyed were:
  • Being disrespectful (26%)
  • Have a bad attitude (22%)
  • Being fake-nice (19%)
  • Forgetting manners (15%)
  • Being a know-it-all (14%)
  • Not speaking to our family (14%)
  • Some of the other attributes that are best avoided were, getting drunk (13%), swearing in front of them (13%), and having sex in the family home (10%).
More information on the study can be found here: thortful.com

Back to previous page

You may also be interested in

Local supplier spotlight: North Yorkshire Council Registrars

Local supplier spotlight: North Yorkshire Council Registrars

Craft a wedding ceremony that truly reflects your love story with the help of North Yorkshire Council's experienced registrars. Offering both legal expertise and a warm, personalised approach, the team ensures every couple can shape a ceremony that feels uniquely their own. Choose from meaningful pre-written vows or write your own, select music that sets the perfect tone, and add heartfelt readings delivered by loved ones. Whether you wish to include special moments for children or family members, or simply want the freedom to tailor details along the way, the registrars are there to guide you. With over 200 licensed venues—from castles and coastal retreats to rustic barns—they help bring your dream ceremony to life, your way.

READ ARTICLE

Expert Reveals Why Winter Weddings Are Making a Big Comeback in the UK

Expert Reveals Why Winter Weddings Are Making a Big Comeback in the UK

Once considered the "off-season" of the wedding world, winter is now becoming one of the most sought-after seasons for UK couples tying the knot. Industry experts say the trend is more than a passing phase, but rather it's the start of a long-term shift in how Brits envision their perfect day. To understand why couples are turning to crisp days, cosy settings, and festive flair, we spoke with Nick Bramer from Country House Weddings, who says winter weddings are not only more romantic, but strategically smart.

READ ARTICLE

Local supplier spotlight: Kirsty Mattson Photography

Local supplier spotlight: Kirsty Mattson Photography

Photographer Kirsty Mattson, delivers authentic, natural wedding photography and creative storytelling. "No two weddings are the same," Kirsty says. "Every person, every couple and every event is unique and it is always my priority to capture the true character of your day in my images. "My wedding photography style is primarily documentary which means natural and unobtrusive. I'm not interested in posing people and I won't ask for fake grins! I have a very hands-off approach to capturing the unique moments, fun and emotion of your day. I'll also offer some gentle direction in a very natural way for a few creative, high-impact wedding portraits, incorporating beautiful light, colour and scenery.

READ ARTICLE

‘Tis the season to say ‘I Do’ - but don’t forget this crucial step, warns expert

‘Tis the season to say ‘I Do’ - but don’t forget this crucial step, warns expert

December is the most popular month to get engaged, accounting for more than 11% of proposals¹. But, as peak proposal season approaches, new research from MoneySuperMarket reveals that many couples could be putting their engagement rings - and their wallets - at risk. The research* revealed that two-thirds (66%) of engaged or married couples don't have their rings covered under their home insurance and more than a quarter (27%) don't have any insurance at all. The data highlights a growing protection gap, particularly among younger generations with over a third (38%) of 18-24 year olds having no cover, compared to 24% of 25-34 year olds.

READ ARTICLE

Subscribe to Your Yorkshire Wedding Magazine for free

VISIT SITE

Follow Your Yorkshire Wedding Magazine on Facebook

VISIT SITE

Yorkshire Violinist

VISIT SITE

Submit your wedding to be featured in Your Yorkshire Wedding Magazine

VISIT SITE